Tuesday, April 11, 2006
a good breakfast
a good breakfast = bacon n eggs n toast
but i still stick by ron's words of wisdom - "supper is the most impt meal of the day"
stating my rights at 7:47 PM
Wednesday, December 14, 2005
band name
| Your Band Name is: |
 The Puffy Masochists |
stating my rights at 12:19 PM
Tuesday, November 08, 2005
comments
still no entry yet.. but wanted to paste the comments i've been receiving over here.. cos they seem quite interesting... don't want to lose them when more comments are added...
angie: smiles! blog leh...
bigafeet: wah lao blog leh!
fen: eat more dark choc+ smile more, it cures depression.tc k :P
fen: if nt i'll b so sads nah- -BIG HUGS- ur the best! + tnx 4 owis being there
fen: wah my dear kor ah.. hw can u type so depressing things 2 days aft my bdae!!luckily u no xiang bu kai-
-jOy-: wow.it made me think too.
N-E-K-O: bleh
bigafeet: why no mood?
conditionred: no mood to blog
kb: mr lee... very long never blog liao leh... what happened to u??
stating my rights at 10:35 PM
Monday, July 18, 2005
What is Stopping Me From Killing Myself Right Now?
it's been exactly a month since i've blogged, sometimes there are really so much to say but u just find it so difficult to type everything down
perhaps one of the lessons which have left me with the deepest impression would be a sociology class which i had not too long ago... the tutor was trying to explain about why individuals behave in a certain way and not another... so he started to write down the statement "what’s stopping you from killing urself right now"
my initial answer would be pain, not knowing where I would go after I die and "having to actually find a knife and stab myself is really troublesome"
but then he started to write several key-words next to his statement which brought about another perspective... words like "family", "friends", "beer" and "love" started to appear... he himself started to circle the words which meant the most to him and he had a BOLD circle over love
as for myself, if I would to do the exercise right now, I don't really know what words to choose
i'm not really close to my family and yes, I know my parents have put in so much in bringing me up, but sometimes all I want is just a hug from dad or for my mom to hold my hand
as for friends, i've seen more then my fair share of friends coming and going and betrayals... friends really are only human beings and they let you down sometime or another
perhaps music can be put into consideration, how it affects my emotions.. but really, what good are your emotions when die?
as for love, well don’t even go there...
what's stopping me from killing myself right now? i've actually experienced what it is like for someone you know to commit suicide... my classmate just killed herself not too long ago and the devastation it brought to her family was immense and i would not wish that on my family, it would simply be too unfair for them to have put in so much to bring up a kid and have it all put to waste
but really, selfish as it may sound, should i embrace death, the world as i know it will cease to exists along with any feelings or sadness or guilt so that really ain’t a big factor if u see it from that perspective
so really, what is it?
stating my rights at 8:46 AM
Sunday, June 19, 2005
Top 3 Movies of 2005 (so far)
1. Batman Begins
2. My Boyfriend is B Type
3. Lemony Snicket's Series of Unfortunate Events
it's rare for me to really like any show from start to finish.. surprisingly, the above 3 mentioned filems managed to fill the void...
stating my rights at 5:25 AM
Tuesday, April 12, 2005
uni lurve
this was reported in the sunday times yesterday...
but for those of u who don't know, it's about a lecture in NUS, and the lecturer suddenly...
aiyah nvm u see for urself
http://ia108010.us.archive.org/3/items/NUS_28_March_2005/ma1506.avi
and here's the gal's blog
http://crapofcw.blogspot.com/2005/03/random-thoughts-i-think-that-i-should.html
talk more abt this later
stating my rights at 12:34 AM
Sunday, April 10, 2005
conflict conflake ii
wow amazing... it's been such a long time since someone used my tagboard *hint hint*. but now that someone has, she has written some pretty interesting (and relevant) stuff. thanks for the feedback.
so let's put this down as a regular entry before people start flooding the tagboard (and we now how highly probable that is) and what she wrote gets pushed down to oblivion.
-jOy-: well.coflicts happen to be my proj topic.so i had to say my peace(pun intended).
-jOy-: but i wld agree on thrashing out in most situations
-jOy-: well.there's 5 approaches to resolving conflicts. 1.accomodating 2.avoiding 3.problem solving 4.dominating 5.compromising so..actually.there's no one best way to resolve. it'situational.
besides point 2, which i would highly not recommend (read previous post), every other point mentioned needs both parties to communicate (at least) to be effective
point 1, to be accomodating would mean that you would either have to have a very high level of tolerance (very rare in human beings) or crudely put, you're just gonna suck everything up. and we all knows wat happens to balloons (and condoms) when u continuously pump them up with air.
point 3, problem solving requires you to know the problem in the first place. how 2 know the problem by not communicating?
point 4, you can probably dominate another person just by actions and not words, so this is probably still up for debate.
point 5, which is the goal i try to attain to deal with every conflict, surely requires communication. compromising is for both parties to so called "each take a step back" and accepting each other's opinions. communication surely needed for this one.
so i'm just saying it's there's a problem, talk about it, no point ignoring it or hiding it from the other person, hoping that it will go away.
because in most cases, it will not.
stating my rights at 4:43 PM
conflict conflake
i think ppl really need to talk and communicate more, more so when there is an issue or a problem to solve. different ppl handle conflict differently. some try to avoid it totally by not talking abt it while other ppl (like me) want to solve it ASAP or at least know what's going on. granted that "some things are best left unsaid", but this certainly does not apply to everything. running from a problem doesn't solve the problem.
while i can't possibly change everybody's mind about thrashing things out, i strongly feel it's one of (if not the best) way of solving a conflict, when all the cards are laid on the table. i've learnt that some ppl can be a bit too unrealistic. for example, u may be angry at someone and that's alright but the problem really comes when the other person doesn't even know what you are angry abt. people cant read your mind. and just because you're angry with that person, you start to avoid/ignore/curse him/her behind his/her back ===> but all these 1) do not solve the problem at hand 2) the person may not even know what you are angry about 3) you make things unnecessarily awkward which makes talking abt the issue at hand even more difficult. so if u do have a problem with something, do talk about it. maybe not today or the next or the day after day, but do it sometime soon before it gets too big
yes, i do believe in a cooling off period and i know people do think more clearly and talk more rationally once both sides are given some time to calm down, thus i do not advocate addressing the conflict immediately or soon after it happens. but surely something is wrong when u let it drag for weeks or months, if at all that it is mentioned.
some conflicts perhaps are difficult to solve or may even seem impossible to do so, especially it's been talked about some many times. but surely you don't give up on things just because it gets a bit diffcult. and though it may sound repetitive or even irritating, i feel it's always good to talk about things.
a related issue is honesty. while tact may be important, in that you have to choose your words carefully, the essence of what is really going on should not be covered up or ignored. i would rather deal with a person who is blunt than a person who makes everything seem ok on the surface but yet sweeps everything under the carpet, only to have me uncover the carpet later when everything under it starts to pile up. and very much often than not, i do find the carpet. call it my sixth sense, but i tend to find these things (even though i don't really want to) fairly easily. that perhaps is the pro (but i feel more like a con) of being a sensitive person. sometimes overly sensitive i have to admit.
not really referring to anybody in particular really because surely more than 50% of the people who know me and has read this would think that i'm referring to them. but do believe me when i say this isn't personal.
but the issue of "how YOU deal with conflict" is surely something worth reflecting about. and yes this time i'm referring to YOU staring at the screen.
stating my rights at 5:39 AM
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